Character Development; The Ultimate Beauty Of Singleness By Pst Akinola Akinyemi

CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT; THE ULTIMATE BEAUTY OF SINGLENESS By Pst Akinola the senior pastor of God's heritage Christian center

1st service (7:30am); 7th Seminar at 2021 ISMS.

Text Psalm 78:70-72.

There is an adage in my mother tongue that best describe my teaching today; 

Obirin so wa nu, Oni oun o mu Ori Oko wa ye

(a lady lack character but concluded she's not destined to have good husband).

You must add value to who you are before you get married.

Who you are is the foundation for who you become in life. 

Your nature will determine your future.

Sound character is the most important requirement for a successful marriage. 

Your character is the most valuable asset you will have in your married life.

After establishing the truth that: You will attract who you are not what you want and that instead of Making a list of what you want in a spouse, make a list of who you need to be to a spouse. 

In other words, not focusing on finding the right person; but focusing on being the right person.

You will understand how important character development is as a single.

There is no pretence about our character, which is a reflection of our true nature. Character is who you are when no one is watching and not what you do or profess to be.

* Character is what God sees not what man sees.

* God weighs us by our characters and not by our gifts.

* Character is what you are in the dark ( what you are when no one sees you).

* Character is the real you.

And this is what most times unconsciously attract you to who you might end up marry.

You must understand that Your finances, business, ministry, qualifications are not as important as your character.

All of these things ARE important, and all should be prayed about. But you know what? Everything in your life will be impacted by, limited by, or spurred on BY YOUR CHARACTER.

HOW IS YOUR CHARACTER FORMS?

1 Corin 2:9 - 

Thoughts - Words - Actions - Habits - Character

 

It all starts with your thoughts; what or who you give you eyes and ears to and eventually form the treasure in your heart.

You are a product of your thoughts. 

Who you are today is from your dominant thoughts of yesterday and yester-years. 

Your thoughts will create your words, which dictate your actions, which form your habits, which eventually sharpen your character.

(Proverbs 23:7, Romans 12:2, Genesis 39:2)

 

Character development is the true mark of our spiritual growth. Before God can put responsibility and the power on you but you will have to work on your character (Psalm 11:3  Galatians 5:16).

HOW TO DEVELOP GOOD CHARACTER?

There is

- God part and 

- Human part in character development.

GOOD RESPONSIBILITY:

His Word and the ministry of the Holy Spirit.

It is our cooperation with God, how much we allow His Word to work in and through us. 

Growth in character is the pure work of the Holy Spirit. 

We must cultivate the fruit of the spirit and deliberately allow the Holy Spirit to work in you and turn your weaknesses into strength (Phil. 2:13, 2 Corinthians 12:9, and Galatians 5:16-26)

 

 

YOUR RESPONSIBILITY

(Eph. 5:21 - 25, 1 Corinthians 13:1-13, I Peter 3:1-7).

It is your responsibility to cultivate your inner life. 

- You must know yourself, your limitations.

- You must be able to identify your strength and weaknesses (Heb 4:13, Joel 3:10).

You must be ready to do a consistent self appraisal and work on your weaknesses to turn them into opportunities to grow until it becomes a source of strength.

 

The knowledge of your TEMPERAMENT strength and weakness will help you achieve all this.

Your Temperament talk about your Personality traits inherited individually and genetically acquired behaviors in association with your exposure while growing up (social status, education, culture and religious backgrounds). 

Temperaments are a person’s natural way of thinking and behavior.

It is the combination of inborn traits or inherited genes that subconsciously affect a person’s behavior.

It is the barometer that measures the things happening within us.

It is who we are before people have the opportunity of hearing us or relating with us. 

These Temperament can be 

- INTROVERTS (Melancholic /Phlegmatic)

- EXTROVERTS(Choleric/Sanguine)

Introverts are the cool personality types, conscious of their thoughts than their environment while

Extroverts are the sociable, outstanding, friendly personality types who are alive to their environment.

Each got weaknesses and strengths.

Let be conclude by saying Maturity for Marriage is in your ability to turn these weaknesses into strength as you keep in step with the Holy Spirit and maximize the power embedded in our redemption (Galatians 5:19-26).

You will succeed.